Psychosocial relationship counseling

Step out of the old cycle.

For people who want to understand, clarify or save their relationship — without blame and without rushed answers.

I support individuals, couples and people in monogamous, open, polyamorous or still unclear relationship situations in understanding patterns, speaking more honestly and finding next steps.

I am Theophil Kroller. My focus is on relationship moments where closeness, hurt, longing and boundaries are all present at the same time.

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A space for clarity, relationship and different perspectives.

You are in the right place if …

Your concern does not have to be fully sorted yet.

Many people hesitate to reach out because they think they already need to know exactly what the issue is. The first step can simply be sorting it out.

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You keep going in circles

You talk a lot, but return to the same hurts, accusations or withdrawals.

Trust has been shaken

After lies, affairs or crossed boundaries, closeness may still be possible — but it no longer feels simple.

Closeness and distance feel difficult

One person seeks connection, the other needs space — and both feel misunderstood.

You are torn between staying and leaving

One part of you wants to try, another part is exhausted or already emotionally distant.

Jealousy or control are creating pressure

Not as a question of blame, but as a signal: what needs safety, boundaries or honest clarification?

Your relationship does not fit a simple box

Monogamous, open, polyamorous, queer or still unclear — what matters is what feels coherent and responsible for you.

Is this for me?

You do not have to explain your concern perfectly yet.

Often it starts with a feeling: something cannot continue like this. In counseling, we sort out what is happening between you and what next step could feel coherent.

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The same cycle again

You talk a lot, but emotionally end up in the same place.

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Betrayal or hurt

After a lie, affair or disappointment, closeness no longer feels simple.

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Closeness and distance

One person seeks contact, while the other needs distance or protection.

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Stay, leave, change?

You feel ambivalent and do not want to decide too quickly.

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Jealousy, control, fear

Strong feelings take over and make clear communication difficult.

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Open, polyamorous, unclear

You are looking for a frame that feels honest, safe and responsible.

Maybe this feels familiar

You talk a lot — and still do not really get any further.

Sometimes the problem is not a lack of love, but a cycle that is hard to step out of alone. You try to explain, clarify, protect yourself — and still end up in the same place.

One person seeks contact, the other withdraws.

Old hurts keep coming back up.

Conversations turn difficult faster than you would like.

You do not know whether to stay, leave or change something.

Relationship counseling can help slow this cycle down: What is happening between you? What are you protecting? What are you avoiding? And what could be a next step that is more honest, clearer and at the same time more connecting?

My services

Counseling for relationship, clarity and new possibilities for action

Not as a ready-made roadmap. Rather as a shared space in which it can become visible what feels coherent for you, your relationship and your life situation.

Individual counseling

For people who want to sort out their relationship situation: ambivalence, thoughts of separation, attachment patterns, boundaries, longing, anger, shame or the question: what is actually my part in this?

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Couples counseling

For couples who want to speak with each other again without losing themselves: conflict, hurt, trust, closeness and distance, decision situations and new agreements.

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Relationship diversity

For people in open, polyamorous, queer or not clearly named relationships. Individual, couple and multi-person settings are possible by arrangement.

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How I work

Understanding what happens between you.

In counseling, we do not only look at single points of conflict, but at the dynamic underneath: What gets triggered? How do you respond? What happens in the other person? And how does the same cycle keep forming between you?

I work directly, respectfully and with a focus on relationship. Difficult things may be spoken — not in order to hurt, but to come back into contact with yourself and with each other.

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Direct & respectful

Without shaming and without moralizing.

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Recurring dynamics

We look at the cycle that keeps showing up between you.

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Connection & boundary

Good relationship needs contact and a clear no.

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Concrete steps

New conversations, agreements and possibilities for action.

Getting started

An introductory call does not commit you to anything.

You can get in touch without already knowing whether you want to work with me longer-term. In the introductory call, we sort out what is going on, what frame would make sense and whether my approach fits your concern.

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You briefly describe what the issue is, or book a time directly.

Sort things out together

We clarify your concern, the possible frame and whether individual counseling, couples counseling or a multi-person setting would make sense.

Find next steps

If it fits, we continue working together. If not, you still leave with more orientation for your next step.

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A first impression

Before we talk

In this short video I share how I look at relationships, conflicts and counseling — and what you can expect when working with me.

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About me

I am interested in relationship where it is allowed to become honest.

I am Theophil Kroller, the founder of Beziehungsdynamiken, and I support people in relationship crises, transitions and processes of clarification. I am interested not only in what people say, but also in what happens between them.

My approach combines psychosocial counseling, systemic thinking, personal experience with different relationship cultures and a clear, respectful language.

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Frequently asked questions

What you can know beforehand

Does my partner — or everyone involved — have to come with me?

No. Relationship counseling can also be useful individually. Even when several people are involved, a first step can begin with one person. In the introductory call, we can clarify who it makes sense to include, and when.

Is counseling also suitable for open or polyamorous relationships?

Yes. I support people in monogamous, open, polyamorous, queer and not clearly named relationship constellations. What matters is not the label, but what feels coherent, safe and responsible for you or for all of you.

Is this psychotherapy?

No. My offer is psychosocial counseling and does not replace psychotherapy or medical treatment. If it becomes clear that a different frame would be more suitable, I will address this transparently.

What happens in the introductory call?

We clarify your concern, the possible frame, first patterns and whether further work together would make sense. You do not have to know exactly what the solution is yet.

Is counseling possible online or in person?

Yes. I offer counseling both online and in person. We can clarify which setting makes sense for you or for all of you in the introductory call.

Getting to know each other

You do not have to know yet how things will continue.

You do not have to explain your situation perfectly. A short message is enough, and we can clarify together whether an introductory call would make sense.

If you are ready, you can request a call directly. If you are still unsure, send me a short WhatsApp message or email first.

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