My approach
I work directly, respectfully and with a focus on relationship. This is not about blame, but about the dynamics that arise between people — and about new possibilities for action.
Often one person is not “the problem”; rather, there is a recurring dance of attack, withdrawal, adaptation or control.
Difficult things may be spoken — clearly, but without shaming.
Good relationship needs both: contact and autonomy, closeness and a clear no.
Counseling should not only bring insight, but also new conversations, agreements and possibilities for action.
What happens between you before the conversation tips over? Which protective strategies take over? Where do pressure, withdrawal, adaptation or control emerge? And what could be a next step that is more honest and at the same time more connecting?
Self-respect, boundaries and connection matter to me: standing up for yourself without devaluing others; taking responsibility without sinking into shame; seeking closeness without creating pressure.
Getting to know each other
In the introductory call, we sort out together what is currently going on and what next step could make sense.